E聊吧第22期:如何HOLD住一場對話

語言是社交禮儀的直接工具，想讓你的語言討大家喜歡嗎？當然可以，如果你掌握了交談的技巧，遵守交談的法則，你一定會成爲社交高手。
嗨，大家好，歡迎收聽獨家專欄節目”E聊吧”，我是Ukki，很多人都問過我這樣一個問題，“爲什麼我跟別人談話的時候總是hold不住呢？有沒有什麼好的方法啊？”今天的“E聊吧”，我們一起來聊聊“如何hold住一場對話？”

Find what to say in your favorite topics. 知道如何談論你最喜歡的話題

We all have things we are passionate about: activities, hobbies, projects, goals, ideas or jobs. Take some time to make a short but relevant list with the things you are most passionate about, and would make easy conversational topics for you. 我們都有自己熱愛的東西：某些活動、愛好、項目、目標、思想或者工作。花點時間列一個簡短的清單，讓它們成爲對話時的好話題。 其實像活動，愛好，項目等等這些都是我們所熟悉的東西，講起來自然會比較流利，不會顯得太拘謹。

Ask open ended questions. 開放式提問

One way to keep a conversation going is to get the other person talking. And the best way to do this is by addressing her open ended questions. These are questions which require more than simple"yes" or "no" answers, and offer the possibility of much richer answers. 讓對話繼續下去的方法之一是讓別人說。而讓別人說的最好方法就是開放式提問。開放式問題不能只用肯定或否定來回答，開放式問題的答案豐富多彩。 這一招也不錯哦，尤其是自己不太擅長於說的情況下。

Blurt. 脫口而出

Often, we find it hard to keep a conversation going not because we can't think of anything to say, but because we fear the other person won't enjoy that particular subject, fact or opinion we have in mind. However, most of time, this fear is not anchored in reality. Give it a try, and you'll discover that people are not that harsh and they can enjoy a lot of things in a conversation. 常常我們覺得對話難以進行下去，並不是因爲我們不知道說什麼，而是因爲我們擔心對方對我們想說的話題沒興趣。但是，大多數時候這個擔心是多餘的。試着開口吧，然後你會發現大家並沒有那麼挑剔，很多話題都是受歡迎的。 這就是脫口而出，想想也是，有時候自己滿腦子的想法，想說吧，又怕對方不感興趣，所以最後還是選擇了沉默，但是如果你不說出來的話怎麼知道別人的想法呢？sometimes, you should and you have to give it a try.

Let the other person end the silence. 讓對方打破沉默

Most people are uncomfortable with silences in a conversation. When one occurs, they immediately try to fill it by finding something to say. You can use this to keep a conversation going. When for example, you've just met a person at a party, you're talking and the conversation is stalling, do not leave that person and go find the peanuts or something like that. Instead, hang in there and let the silence work for you. Most of the time, the other person will eventually pick up the conversation and end the silence. 大多數人不喜歡對話中的沉默。一旦沉默發生了，它們會很快說點什麼。你可以利用這一點讓對話繼續下去。比如，你在派對上遇到一個人，你們的對話中止了。這時候不要去拿食物，而把對方晾在那裏。相反，你應該呆在原地。大部分時候，對方會打破沉默，接上話。

我現在有個非常邪惡的想法，要是兩個人都選擇了沉默的話，那怎麼辦呢？這個問題大家值得考慮一下。 今天的“E聊吧”跟大家分享了“如何hold住一場對話”，大家不妨去嘗試一下，如果覺得管用的話，可以跟你身邊的朋友分享一下你們的心得哦。 OK, so much for today's program, see you next time and have a nice day, bye~