時尚雙語:察覺說謊的20個基本步驟
察覺說謊的20個基本步驟
你想有沒有覺得自己在與別人交流時自認爲觀點十分清晰，然而還是他人還是會誤解，獲取錯誤的信息，或者完全不知道你的觀點呢？
Have you ever thought you were being utterly clear in your communication with someone - and yet somehow they still managed to misunderstand, get the wrong message or completely miss your point?
或者你不遺餘力的與人爲善，可他們卻毫不領情，不去感激你呢？
Or have you ever gone out of your way to do something nice for someone but they just didn't seem that appreciative or thankful?
1. 一個說謊者通常是不自在的，他們會在你們兩人之間設立一道屏障。所以當你們坐在一起時，他會在自己左邊或者右邊的桌上放一些簡單的小東西，例如鉛筆之類。
1. A liar tends to be uncomfortable and will build a wall by placing an object between the two of you. So when sitting down place something simple on the table to their left or right side like a pencil.
2. 普遍而言，說謊者的身體關節處顯得僵硬，會做出一些呆板的舉動，尤其在他們的腿部。然而他們會極力保持手臂的自然放鬆。
2. Often a liars body will become rigid with stiff movement in the joints. Especially their legs and will struggle to keep their arms still and relaxed.
3. 通常而言，雙手張開的姿勢表示對方和你在一起很舒適，就如和兄弟姐妹或者配偶之間會有這樣表現。而說謊者臉部表情侷促不安，時不時的用手指搔他們的太陽穴或者鼻子。我們回到第一點來看，當你詢問對方的時候，我們將第一點提到的簡單的小東西變成搔太陽穴和撓鼻子這兩種無意識的舉動，可以看出對方在說謊。
3. They fidget with their face, like scratching the sides of their temples or nose. Usually open hand gestures mean they are to comfortable around you. Most likely a sibling or spouse will be like this. Go back to number 1. And change the subject before coming back to the question. It will be an unconscious movement.
4. 當說話者完全失去如何處理真相以及如何保衛事實或者相對事實的現實可能性時會說謊。
4. They completely lose reality with how to deal with the truth and will go on the defensive fighting for the truth or rather their truth. A lie.
5. 說謊者以一種幽默的方式或者粗魯的評論，一如既往的將問題拋給你來處理。
5. Becomes humored by joking or making a rude comment most likely they usually throw the question back at you.
6. 當與之交談時，他們經歷着一系列情感變化。只有改變話題才能讓他們感到自在，當然前提在於你不進行深層次的追問。正常來說，如果說謊，他們耳朵和前頰處會泛紅。
6. They go through a series of emotions when talking to them, change the subject and make them comfortable again before pursuing further. Watch the color of their ears and front cheeks. They will normal out again if lied to.
7. 如果你問對方今夜在哪裏過夜，對方向左上方看去，說明在說謊。
7. If you ask about their location that night and they look up to the left.
8. 如果你們閒聊關於其他人或者事情的時候向左上方看。如果這個人是右撇子，他會改變看的方向。
8. If they gossip or ramble about other people or things they heard they look to the left. If the person is right handed this will change the direction they look.
9. 當對方會迅速回答：“我不知道。”表明這不是一個值得思考的問題。
9. Will give short brisk answer, “I don't know.” Not a question of thought.
10. 觀察對方脖子上的動脈，特別是男士，留意對方被提問之前脈搏跳動的規律，在對方回答的問題的時候是否加速。
10. Look for the artery on the neck, especially men, note how it pulses before questioning and on whether it quickens when asked.
11. 一個情緒激動的謊言者可以會不停的擺弄他的拇指和食指。這是一個不知道如何更好的處理話題的標誌。
11. A hard emotional lie is detected by whether their thumb and forefinger touch briefly. A sign on not dealing well on the subject.
12. 說謊者看着你考慮答案的時候，腦袋會向左傾斜。
12. They lean their head to the left when looking at you and thinking of an answer.
13. 說謊者交叉雙臂，以這種無禮的姿勢自我保護。他們呼吸緊促，常常會瞪着你或者試圖看穿你。
sed arms is a defensive offensive gesture, looking for fast breathing, usually they tend to stare at you or through you.
14. 口吃，通常出現於配偶間的欺騙以及當被詢問每晚的常規時。當某人迅速回答說11：00或者其他時間在做什麼，如果再問一遍同樣的問題，他們可能會結巴着說出另外一個時間，也許是一個模糊的時間段，但是和第一次的時間相當的接近。他們爲了證明沒有欺騙。
14. Stuttering is a given, often done by cheating spouses and their nightly routines. A quick answer of 11:00 or another time. Ask if they are sure and they will stutter a different time maybe not an exact time but pretty darn close to the first time. Trying prove exactness.
15. 說謊者在交談中咳嗽或者嘆息，爲了尋找出路並且希望你放棄盤問。
15. Coughing during the conversation or sighing is looking for a way out and is hoping you'll give up.
16. 當對方雙手不停摩擦膝蓋顯示出坐立不安，他們會吸鼻並且往下看。主要是因爲他們正在不停的出冷汗。
16. Sniffling and looking down while fidgeting around their knees with the hands. Mainly because of the sweat buildup.
17. 說謊的人在被詢問的過程中不斷的要水喝，試圖使你疲倦。
17. Will need water during questioning, lying dehydrates you.
18. 有些人不得不說謊，他們甚至會用眼前的事物作爲謊言的證據。這種人需要心理諮詢，他們可能有過一段不愉快的往事。瞭解一下他們的背景也許有所幫助。
one that cannot control their lying will still lie with the proof sitting in front of them. This person needs counseling and may have issues in their past. Do a back ground check.
19. 與習慣說謊的人保持距離，避免談及個人問題。沒有隱私掌握在他們手裏就不會害怕，就意味着不受欺騙。
19. Keeps you away from certain people or avoids talking about certain individuals. No fear means no lie.
20. 說謊者會過度真誠的握緊你的手尋找一種舒適的感覺。他或她會爲你製造下一個謊言。他們希望你看着他們的眼睛，微笑着對你說：“看，我從來不欺騙你，過去沒有，將來也絕對不會。”回到上文提到的第一點，問：“這是真的嗎？”（這是我最喜愛的一點。）
20. Becomes needy and over affectionate by trying to touch your hands for your comfort. Another lie, its for his/hers. Will want you to look at them in the eyes, smile at you and say, “Look, I would never cheat on you, I never have before and I never will.” Go back to number 1 by changing the subject and the ask. “Really?” (This ones my favorite)
