圖文閱讀:10種殺手鐗幫助你提升個人自信

1. Groom yourself. 裝扮自己。

This seems like such an obvious one, but it's amazing how much of a difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing。

這似乎看上去顯而易見了，但洗澡或是剃鬍須後給你自我感覺上帶來的自信和自我形象上的改進卻是很神奇的。一直以來，你就是通過這樣一件小小的事情來徹底的改變自己的情緒。

2. Dress nicely. 穿戴好些。

A corollary of the first item above … if you dress nicely, you'll feel good about yourself. You'll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn't necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable。

這是上面一條必然產生的結果……如果你穿戴好些，你的自我感覺會很好，你會覺得自己很成功，很得體，已經準備好來應對這個世界。這裏，穿戴好對於每個人來說是不一樣的…你不必穿500美元一套的衣服，但可以穿很好看也很得體的休閒服飾。

3. Photoshop your self-image. 修改你的自我形象。

Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. But this picture isn't fixed and immutable. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. If it's not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it。

自我形象對於我們來說意義重大，比我們認爲的重要得多。我們在腦海裏都有一個自我形象，它決定了我們自信的程度。但這個形象不是固定改變的，你可以改變它的。多使用你的腦海中的圖像修改功能，用在你的自我形象上。如果你腦海中的自我形象不是很好，就修改一下吧。找到爲什麼你那樣看待自己，並找個方法解決它。

4. Think positive. 積極思考。

One of the things I learned when I stArted running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale, but my goodness this works. Seriously. Try it if you haven't。

二年前，當我學習跑步時，我學到的一件事情是如何用積極的想法來取代消極的想法(見下一條)。如何通過這樣改變自己的想法來使好的事情發生。就是使用這樣一個小小的技藝，我在不到一年訓練後就能跑馬拉松。這聽起來是如此陳腐，和諾曼。文森特。皮爾一樣。但謝天謝地它很有效。真的，如果你還沒有試過的話，不妨試一試。

5. Kill negative thoughts. 去除消極的想法。

Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it's so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you're doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV。” Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. (“C'mon, I can do this! Only one mile left!”)

這一條與上一條是連在一起的，但因爲它如此重要，我把它作爲單獨一項列出來。你必須清楚自己內心的想法，清楚你自己是誰和你在幹什麼。當我在跑步裏，有時我腦海裏開始講：“這太難了，我想停下來，去看電視。”當然，我很快就學會分辨這種內心消極的想法，並學會那個可以改變生活中一切的小竅門：我會想象消極的想法就是一個小臭蟲，我會非常警惕的搜查這引起小臭蟲。當我抓住一個，我就狠狠跺幾腳(當然指精神上的)，然後捏碎，殺死它。然後用積極的想法取代它。(“加油，我可能做到的，不過只剩一里而已”)

Know yourself and you will win all battles. - Sun Tzu

知己知彼，百戰不殆。-孫子

6. Get to know yourself. 瞭解你自己。

When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can't defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you're trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they're real limitations or just ones you've allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you'll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence。

在要打仗前，最聰明的將軍會將敵人瞭解得一清二楚。如果你不瞭解你的敵人，你是無法戰勝它的。當你試圖戰勝消極的個人形象，變得自信些話，你的敵人就是你自己。好好了解你知道，開始聆聽你的想法，開始編寫關於自己和自己想法的日誌，分析你產生這些消極的想法。然後想想關於自己的好的方面，那些你可以做得很好的並且喜歡的事情。開始想想什麼你的侷限性，並弄清楚是否是真的侷限了你，還僅僅是你允許擺放在那裏虛假障礙。深深的挖掘自己的想法，最終你會更加自信。

7. Act positive. 積極行動。

More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It's one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can't, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You'll soon start to notice a difference。

除了要積極思考，你還要付諸行動，事實上，這是發展個人自信的關鍵。積極思考是一回事，當你開始行動時，你又改變了，所以一次做好一件事情。你所做事情決定了你，當你改變你所做時，你就改變了你自己。用積極方式行動，採取措施而不是僅僅告訴自己你不行，積極一些。用積極的方式與人交談，精力充沛的行動。要不了多久，你就會發現自己的改變。

8. Be kind and generous. 友好且慷慨。

Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. You act in accordance with the Golden Rule, and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does wonders for your self-confidence, believe me。

噢，太老土了。如果這對你來說太老土的話，繼續前進。但你應該知道，對別人友好，慷慨於你自己、你的時間和你所擁有的，是改善你自我形象的非常好的方法。你遵從黃金準則行事，你將自我感覺良好，認爲自己是個很好的人。相信我，它會對你的自信產生奇蹟般的效果的。

One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation. - Arthur Ashe

成功的關鍵是自信，自信的關鍵是有所準備。——阿瑟·阿什

9. Get prepared. 時刻準備好。

It's hard to be confident in yourself if you don't think you'll do well at something. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking an exam: if you haven't studied, you won't have much confidence in your abilities to do well on the exam. But if you studied your butt off, you're prepared, and you'll be much more confident. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself。

如果你不知道你會做好某件事，那麼自信會很困難。儘可能把自己準備好，來擊退不自信的想法。想想正在考試：如果你沒有學習，你會不相信自己有能力考好試。但如果你學好了，準備好了，你就會有信心多了。現在，你把生命當作考試，準備好你自己。

10. Know your principles and live them. 明白自己的原則，並實踐它們。

What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don't know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. For myself, I try to live the Golden Rule (and fail often). This is my key principle, and I try to live my life in accordance with it. I have others, but they are mostly in some way related to this rule (the major exception being to “Live my Passion”). Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven't given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don't act on them。

你的生活是建立在怎樣的原則之上的？如果你不知道，就會比較麻煩，因爲你的生將活毫無方向感而言。對於我自己，我一直遵從黃金準則(常常失敗)。它是我最基本的原則，我試圖遵從黃金準則來生活。我也有其它的原則，但大部分都和黃金準則有關的(“充滿激情的生活”例外)。多想想你的原則……你可能有這些原則，但很少去思考它們。現在想想你是否遵守這些原則，還是僅僅相信它們，卻很少採取行動。