你長大了嗎？判斷人真正成熟的20種表現
How can one classify a true Adult? Many people directly attribute age to adulthood. The problem with this methodology becomes evident when you discuss the topic with various people of different cultural backgrounds. If you ask each of them what age they believe constitutes the point at which a person progresses from childhood into adulthood, their answers will always be different. Why? Because every one of the answers are based on subjective opinion. Adulthood is not based age; it’s based strictly on emotional maturity.
怎樣定義一個真正的成年人？很多人會直接把成年和年齡相掛鉤。當你和有着不同文化背景的人來討論這個話題的時候，你會發現這種分類方式是有明顯錯誤的。當你問其中的每一個人，一個未成年的人到成年人的轉折點是幾歲，他們的回答總是不同的。爲什麼？因爲他們的回答都是基於自己主觀的看法。成年的界定並不是看年齡，而是看心智的成熟。
So what constitutes emotional maturity, and thus adulthood? Here are 20 defining characteristics of a true adult:
那什麼是心智的成熟呢？怎樣才能成年呢？下面是20條成年人心智成熟的表現：
1. Realizing that maturity is an ongoing process, not a state, and continuously striving for self improvement.
意識到成熟是一個不斷進行的過程，而不是一種狀態，要不斷提升自己。
2. Able to manage personal jealousy and feelings of envy.
有能力處理好個人的猜忌和嫉妒情緒。
3. Has the ability to listen to and evaluate the viewpoints of others.
能做好傾聽和反思他人的看法。
4. Maintains patience and flexibility on a daily basis.
每天都能保持耐心和靈活處事的能力。
5. Accepts the fact that you can’t always win, and learns from mistakes instead of whining about the outcome.
接受你並不一直都是贏家的事實，能從錯誤中吸取教訓，而不是發牢騷。
6. Does not overanalyze negative points, but instead looks for the positive points in the subject being analyzed.
不會鑽牛角尖過度悲觀，能看到事物積極的一面。
7. Is able to differentiate between rational decision making and emotional impulse.
能區分理智決定和情感衝動之間的不同。
8. Understands that no skill or talent can overshadow the act of preparation.
知道機會總是給予那些做好充分準備的人。
9. Capable of managing temper and anger.
能夠處理好自己的脾氣和憤怒。
10. Keeps other people’s feeling in mind and limits selfishness.
能考慮到他人的感受，讓自己盡力不要太自私。11. Being able to distinguish between ‘needs’ and ‘wants’.
能區分“需要”和“想要”的不同。
12. Shows confidence without being overly arrogant.
有充足的自信而又不會讓人覺得傲慢。
13. Handles pressure with self composure.
能夠沉着地應對壓力。
14. Takes ownership and responsibility of personal actions.
能獨立自立，也能對自己的事情負責。
15. Manages personal fears.
有能力客服自己的恐懼感。
16. Able to see the various shades of grey between the extremes of black and white in every situation.
能在絕對的“黑”與“白”之間看到事物的多面性。
17. Accepts negative feedback as a tool for self improvement.
勇於接受負面的反饋來促進自我提升。
18. Aware of personal insecurities and self-esteem.
理解個人的不安全感和自尊心。
19. Able to separate true love from transitory infatuation.
能區分什麼是真愛，什麼是轉瞬即逝的迷戀。
20. Understanding that open communication is the key to progression.
明白開放式的交流纔是取得提升的關鍵。
Above all, true adults do what they have to do when it is required of them, and they do what they want when they can. They are able to distinguish between the two and manage their time and efforts accordingly.
綜上所述，真正的成年人會在責任到來之時按照要求去做，也知道什麼時候才能做他們想做的事。而且他們能區分什麼是該做的事，什麼是想做的事，也會合理地來安排他們的時間和精力。
