網上調情:關鍵是要讚美嘴脣
"Shall I compare thee to a Summer's day?," asked Shakespeare. Now, women of the world have replied: "No, just tell me I have beautiful lips."
A new survey of online flirting by dating website has found that the best Internet chat-up line for men to use is: "You have beautiful lips."
"We have found the Holy Grail of flirting," said Badoo Director of Marketing Lloyd Price.
The site, which boasts 87 million registered users worldwide, analysed the success rates of opening lines from nearly 200,000 online flirtations in 11 languages over the course of one month to come up with a "Compliment Success Index."
Site users were invited to use one of 12 different chat-up lines. Each complimented an aspect of a woman's body or appearance. Researchers measured the success rate of each line in two ways: first, their success at prompting any response at all; second, their success at launching a longer conversation -- one going back and forth at least four times.
Complimenting a woman's lips was the most successful overall, but other lines worked best in particular countries.
American, French, Italian or Brazilian women were more responsive to "You dress beautifully." Brits preferred praise for their legs, Spaniards responded to compliments about their hair, while Germans and Canadians preferred skin praise. Dutch and Portuguese women liked: "You have beautiful ears."
Jo Hemmings, a British behavioural psychologist said women responded best to compliments about their lips because it's a bold approach that seems more personal.
"What many women want is for men to take the initiative and not be wishy-washy," Hemmings said in a statement accompanying the survey. "A lot of men on dating sites send a sort of generic message and women recognize something that hasn't been customised for them."
David Givens, American author of the book, "Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship" said the results made sense because women focus a lot of attention on their lips.
"From adolescence onwards, they cosmetically adorn their lips, applying lipstick and colours. They have been doing so since ancient Egypt."
“我可以把你比作夏日嗎？”莎士比亞問道。現在，全世界的女人們回答：“不用了，只要告訴我我的嘴脣很漂亮就可以了。”
婚戀交友網站Badoo做的一項關於網上調情的新調查發現，男人在網上調情最無往不利的搭訕開場白是“你的嘴脣很漂亮”。
Badoo市場總監羅伊德•普萊斯說：“我們已經找到調情的必殺技。”
這家在全球擁有8700萬註冊用戶的網站耗時一個月，分析了近20萬句用11種語言說的網上調情開場白，計算它們的成功率，然後得出了一個“讚美成功指數”。
該網站請用戶從12種讚美女性外表不同部位的句子中隨意挑選一種作爲開場白。研究者從兩個方面來衡量每種開場白的成功率：一是看對方是否有迴應；二是看該開場白是否能成功引發一場更深入的對話，也就是說至少要有四個來回的對聊。
誇獎一個女人的嘴脣總體來說是最有效的，但是幾個讚美其他部位的開場白在某些特定國家最受歡迎。
美國、法國、意大利和巴西的女人對“你的衣服很漂亮”迴應得更熱烈一些。英國女人則更喜歡別人誇讚她們的腿。西班牙女人欣賞對她們頭髮的讚揚，而德國和加拿大女人則更偏愛對她們皮膚的誇獎。荷蘭和葡萄牙女人喜歡聽到：“你的耳朵很漂亮。”
英國行爲心理學家喬•亨明斯認爲女人之所以喜歡別人誇獎她們的嘴脣是因爲這個大膽的讚美聽起來更個人化。
在該調查的報告中，亨明斯說：“很多女人喜歡男人主動一點，但也不要人云亦云。婚戀網站上的很多男人說一些泛泛的通用的話來搭訕，而女人會辨認出這種千篇一律的固定臺詞。”
《愛的信號：求偶肢體語言實踐指南》的作者，美國人大衛•吉文斯說調查的結果合情合理，因爲女人確實對自己的嘴脣很關注。
“從青春期開始，女人們就開始用脣膏和口紅來修飾自己的雙脣。這種行爲在古埃及時候就已經開始了。”
Vocabulary:
chat-up line: 與人搭訕時用的套詞
Holy Grail: 聖盃，也可以指“長期追求的目標，渴望得到的東西”。
wishy-washy: not having clear or firm ideas or beliefs （思想或信仰）稀裏糊塗的，不清楚的，不堅定的
generic: shared by, including or typical of a whole group of things; not specific（一般的；普通的；通用的）
customise: to make or change something to suit the needs of the owner 訂製，訂做，改制（以滿足顧主的需要）
