四大跡象表明他想永遠和你在一起

It's notoriously hard to tell what guys are thinking, in regards to the takeout you picked for dinner or what he sees for your future as a couple. But if he thinks these 4 things are true about the two of you, he probably believes your relationship has real, long-term potential.

很難知道男生們對下列問題的看法：有關晚餐外賣吃什麼，亦或他對未來你們是對夫妻的看法。但如果他認爲你倆都共同擁有下列四項時，他會認爲你們的關係有潛在的長期可能性。

1. You have the same goals. It's important that you both see yourselves starting a family together (or not), or living in the suburbs, or backpacking across the world. Being on the same page is going to be way more important in the long run. It's way more important than both of you being super into Twenty One Pilots or both having surprisingly similar Netflix recommendations. You can always buy two TVs if you hate the same shows, but you can't go off and have a second secret family if your partner doesn't want one. I mean, you can, but that's really unhealthy.

1. 你們的目標相同：你們對以下問題看法一致是十分重要的：共同組建（或不組建）家庭、生活在郊區或者是揹包環遊全世界。長期看來，看法一致尤爲重要。相對於你們倆都超級喜歡Twenty One Pilots樂隊或者對Netflix的評價驚人的相似而言，看法一致更爲重要。如果你們倆喜歡的電視節目不一樣，你們可以買兩個電視，但如果你的另一半不想組建家庭，你是不可以離開他祕密與他人組建家庭的。我的意思是，當然你可以這樣做，但這樣是不健康的。

2. They understand what you need from them and when. It's less about being kind and caring, and more about knowing when to be kind and caring. Maybe if you're upset, you'd rather be alone than have your partner in your face trying to help. Your partner needs to be respectful of your emotional boundaries and needs (and vice versa). Understanding each other's nuances goes a long way, especially if you're not always vocal about what you really need.

2. 他們知道你什麼時候需要他，以及需要什麼。這不是關於對人友善，關心他人，而是關於知道何時友善、何時關心他人。也許在你難過時，你寧願獨自待着，也不希望另一半在你面前試着安慰你。你的另一半應該尊重你的情感界限和需求（反之亦然）。瞭解彼此的細微需求是要很長時間的，尤其當你對自己真正想要的東西含糊其辭時更是如此。

3. You've already been through the tough times. No relationship needs a trial by fire, but if you've helped each other through some of the darker moments, you already know that even at your worst, your relationship is stable.

3. 你們都經歷過艱難的時光。沒有哪一種戀愛關係是需要考驗的，但如果你們互幫互助度過了黑暗的日子，那麼你就會知道即使是在你最不堪的時候，你們的感情也是十分穩定的。

4. You know how to fight, but you also know how to make up. Bottling up your feelings to avoid a fight is easy, but it's going to be awful in the long term. Having lots of fights isn't bad, as long as you know how to make up afterward.

4. 你知道如何爭吵，但你也知道該如何收場。抑制自己的情感以避免吵架是件易事，但長此以往卻十分糟糕。總是吵架也不是件壞事，只要你知道事後該如何彌補就行了。